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Vibration in quantum physics means that “everything is energy”. We are beings that vibrate at certain frequencies. Each vibration is equivalent to a feeling and in the “vibrational” world, there are only two types of vibrations, the positive and the negative. Any feeling causes you to emit a vibrational frequency that can be positive or negative.

1 – The Thoughts

Every thought emits a frequency towards the Universe and that frequency returns towards the origin, then in that case, if you have negative thoughts, of discouragement, sadness, anger, fear, all of that turns towards you. That is why it is so important that you take care of the quality of your thoughts and learn to cultivate more positive thoughts.

2 – The Company We Keep

The people around you directly influence your vibrational frequency. If you surround yourself with happy, positive, determined people, you will also enter into that vibration. Now if you surround yourself with complaining, cursing and pessimistic people, be careful! They may be decreasing your frequency, and as a consequence preventing you from making the Law of Attraction work in your favor.

3 – The Music

Music is very powerful. If you only listen to music that speaks of death, betrayal, sadness, abandonment, all that will interfere in what you vibrate. Pay attention to the lyrics of the music you listen to, it may be decreasing your vibrational frequency. And remember: You draw into your life exactly what you vibrate.

4 – The Things You Look At

When you watch programs that deal with misfortune, death, betrayal, etc. your brain accepts that as a reality and releases a whole chemistry in your body, causing your vibrational frequency to be affected. Look at things that do you good, that make you laugh or happy and it will help you vibrate at a higher frequency.

5 – The Environment

Whether at home or at work, if you spend much of your time in a disorganized and dirty environment, this will also affect your vibrational frequency. Improve what is around you, organize and clean your environment. Show the Universe that you are apt to receive much more. Take care of what you already have.

6 – The Word

If you tend to complain or speak badly about things and people, this affects your vibrational frequency. To maintain your high frequency it is essential that you eliminate the habit of complaining and speaking badly about others. Thus avoid making dramas and victimizing yourself. Take responsibility for the choices of your life.

7 – The Gratitude

Gratitude positively affects your vibrational frequency. That is a habit that you should incorporate right now into your life. Start to thank for everything, for the good things and those that you consider not good, thanks for all the experiences that you have lived.

The 8 Largest Sexual Harassment Verdicts In History

Ashley AlfordAshley Alford won $95 million in a harassment caseFox News

News emerged last week of the horrifying conditions that employees of New York state lawmaker Vito Lopez allegedly had to work under, not long after a shocking suit was filed against the Department of Homeland Security.

During sexual harassment suits, unsavory allegations come to light, and in many cases companies will quickly settle to avoid bad publicity.

But in some instances, these cases do go to trial and even reach a verdict.

While appeals courts ultimately slashed some of the awards, in all of these cases juries initially sent a message to corporate defendants by handing down multi-million dollar verdicts—in some cases to lone plaintiffs.

A legal secretary won a multi-million dollar suit against a powerful law firm.

A legal secretary won a multi-million dollar suit against a powerful law firm.A People magazine story on Rena Weeks. People Magazine

Year: 1994

Jury award: $7.1 million

The allegations: In September 1994a San Francisco jury awarded former Baker & McKenzie legal secretary Rena Weeks $7.1 million in punitive damages, which a judge reduced to $3.5 million, the San Francisco Chronicle reported.

She accused her boss, trademark attorney Martin Greenstein, of lunging at her chest, pouring M&Ms down her breast pocket, and grabbing at her hips. The trial gripped the Bay Area at the time, and many legal watchers considered the verdict a landmark victory.

A former UBS sales assistant said a supervisor made relentless sexual advances.

A former UBS sales assistant said a supervisor made relentless sexual advances.Carla Ingraham kshb.com

Year: 2011

Jury award: $10.6 million

The allegations: Carla C. Ingraham, who was 51 in 2011, claimed her supervisor made repeated comments about her breast size, talked about how big his penis was, andasked her about sexual fantasies, Bloomberg reported.

UBS fired her when she complained about the supervisor, she claimed. UBS says it prohibits retaliation against employees who complain of harassment, Bloomberg reported.

A former team executive for the New York Knicks says she was fired a month after complaining a famed coach harassed her.

A former team executive for the New York Knicks says she was fired a month after complaining a famed coach harassed her.Isiah Thomas AP

Year: 2007

Jury award: $11.6 million

The allegations: Anucha Browne Sanders claimed famed Knicks coach Isiah Thomas harassed her over a period of two years, and that she was fired a month after she formally complained about it, the New York Times reported.

 The first female millwright at a Chrysler plant claimed she endured cruel jokes and sexually explicit cartoons.

The first female millwright at a Chrysler plant claimed she endured cruel jokes and sexually explicit cartoons.AP Images

Year: 1999

Jury award: $21 million

The allegations: Linda Gilbert, the first woman millwright at Chrysler’s Jefferson North Assembly Plant in Detroit, claimed co-workers harassed her with sexually explicit photos and cruel names, the AP reported.

Her award was believed to be one of the largest handed to an individual sexual harassment plaintiff. However, the Michigan Supreme Court threw it out in 2004 after finding it was “clearly the product of passion and prejudice.”

Six women won a $30 million jury verdict from a grocery chain after they claimed they were abused and fondled.

Six women won a $30 million jury verdict from a grocery chain after they claimed they were abused and fondled.Lakers fans celebrate a victory outside a Ralph’s in LA.Michal Czerwonka/Getty News

Year: 2002

Jury award: $30 million

The allegations: Six female workers claimed a store manager at a Ralph’s grocery store in  Escondido, Calif. terrorized them for an entire year, fondling them and throwing objects at them including a 12-pack of soda and a phoneABC News reported.

In 2006, a state appeals court reduced the award after finding it “constitutionally excessive,” North County Times reported at the time.

An employee of an Aaron’s rent-to-own won a huge award after claiming a general manager masturbated on her.

An employee of an Aaron's rent-to-own won a huge award after claiming a general manager masturbated on her.Ashley Alford won $95 million in a harassment case Fox News

Year: 2011

Jury award: $95 million, which was reduced to $40 million because of a cap on federal damages.

The allegations: Ashley Alford, who worked for an Aaron’s near St. Louis, claimed the store’s general manager assaulted her after sexually harassing her for a year, the St. Louis Post-Dispatch reported.

In the fall of 2006, he allegedly snuck up behind her while she was sitting in a stock room and hit her in the head with his penis, the Post-Dispatch reported.

A physician’s assistant won perhaps the biggest-ever sexual harassment verdict for a single plaintiff.

A physician's assistant won perhaps the biggest-ever sexual harassment verdict for a single plaintiff.Ani Chopourian ABC News

Year: 2012

Jury award: $168 million

The allegations: Physician’s assistant Ani Chopourian claimed doctors at Mercy General Hospital constantly asked her for sex, ABC News reports. One allegedly even stuck her with a needle and called her a “stupid chick.”

She looked at her supervisor and said, “Do something,” when she got harassed, ABC News reported. But her supervisor would just laugh, she said.

 Pharmaceutical giant Novartis was ordered to pay $250 million over claims of rampant discrimination against female sales staff.

Pharmaceutical giant Novartis was ordered to pay $250 million over claims of rampant discrimination against female sales staff.

Year: 2010

Jury award: $250 million

The allegations: While this was technically a discrimination case and not a harassment case, a number of employees of Novartis Pharmaceuticals also claimed they were harassed or demeaned.

One female sales person claimed she wasyelled at for leaving a long meeting to go to the bathroom, while a top-performing sales person who was a new mom was told not to apply for management jobs, the Wall Street Journal reported.

How to Tell the Difference Between a Narcissist and a Sociopath

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Ever wonder if you are dealing with a narcissist or sociopath at work?

When it comes to dealing with difficult personalities in the workplace, people struggle because they don’t know the difference between a narcissist and a sociopath. Both personalities show up in all sorts of workplaces, and at all levels of employment. Sociopathic personalities are not as uncommon in the work world as you might assume – functional sociopaths can manage quite well in the everyday world. Because of this, it’s very useful to know the difference between the two, so that you can use responses and strategies that work best for each specific personality problem.

Knowing some basics of how to discern the difference between the personality types is the place to start.

Keep in mind that this article is short and therefore not an exhaustive description of either personality type. If you suspect you are working with either a narcissist or sociopath, you may want to do further research in order to have a deeper grasp of the dynamics. Narcissists and sociopaths are of both genders – this article uses the convention “he/him” for ease of reading only. Just a quick note about terms: sociopath and psychopath are one and the same thing according to the psychology profession, but our culture seems to view psychopaths as criminally-oriented.

Shared Elements and Differences:

There’s good reason that narcissists and sociopaths get confused in our minds, and that is because they share some elements – sociopaths are narcissistic but narcissists are not sociopaths. Though they share some motivations and behaviors, some elements of their personalities are very, very different. Clarity about the differences is probably the most useful way for a layperson to differentiate the two types. If you are interested in more information about how the personalities are similar, see this series of blog posts that compares and contrasts narcissists, borderlines, and sociopaths.

Basic similarities of narcissists and sociopaths:

• Both have charisma or charm that they use to get people engaged.

• Both tend toward grandiosity – big ideas, big stories, big visions.

• Both take credit when things go right and point fingers when things go wrong.

• Both are self-serving.

• Both lack empathy; narcissists are unable to see things from another’s point of view and sociopaths can see how they effect others but just don’t care.

• Both exhibit a sense of entitlement.

• Both have a total lack of personal insight into their emotional selves.

• Both can skillfully re-craft the past to suit own needs.

• Both can speak of emotions, but their experiences differ from that of people with empathy.

• Neither apologize when it would be appropriate to do so, although a sociopath might offer a fake apology in order to keep things moving along.

What’s different:

A narcissist will talk about himself, a sociopath will get you to talk about you.

A narcissist will introduce topics of interest or concern to himself, a sociopath will introduce topics of interest to you.

A narcissist wants to be perceived well, a sociopath wants to be perceived in whatever way will best suit his purpose.

Both ignore social rules, but a narcissist does it out of lack of awareness, while a sociopath does it to manipulate situations for his purpose.

A narcissist is somewhat hapless and unaware of his personality predicament his behavior and his effect on others; a sociopath is likely to be aware he is different from people who experience empathy and knowingly use this difference to get his way.

A sociopath is pre-occupied with winning, while a narcissist is preoccupied with being appreciated and admired.

A sociopath is a stimulation junky seeking ways to avoid boredom, while a narcissist may or may not be oriented to high stimulus activities.

A narcissist is unaware of the aggravating effect he has on others, while a sociopath is very aware of the effect on others.

A narcissist may demean you, be a bully, or mess with your career if he perceives you as a threat, while a sociopath will knowingly try to take you down or out altogether if you get in his way. A sociopath is likely to be cunning, patient and strategic in this process. He plays a long game while a narcissist plays a shorter term game.

A narcissist doesn’t mind working hard if it leads to approval, while a sociopath manipulates to do as little work as possible for the purpose of having money without expending effort.

A narcissist will have many relationships that end badly, while a sociopath is more likely to cut and run altogether once their manipulations are revealed or thwarted.

Both are chameleon-like and adapt their stories to please their particular listeners, however a sociopath may skirt closer to the edge of believability somehow managing to get you to doubt yourself rather than the fantastic story.

A narcissist is likely to adapt better to a work situation in established organizations with clear rules and social codes while a sociopath will prefer a start up or entrepreneurial environment where the rules and social codes are not clear.

A narcissist will get frustrated that his attempts to interact with empathetic people seem to go awry; he’ll feel like a victim because his efforts don’t work. A sociopath will not feel this sort of frustration, he processes what other people would consider to have emotional import as neutral information.

Both can make poor collaborators and team members. With a narcissist it’s due to poor social/emotional skills, self-orientation, and hapless attempts to get their own needs met, while with a sociopath it’s due to manipulation to get out of work, thwart others, win out, and get what they want.

Strategies for Success:

If you discern you are working with a narcissist or sociopath, there are strategies for maintaining professionalism and taking care of yourself. If you are dealing with a narcissist, your worst problems tend to revolve around being triggered (and therefore compromising your professionalism) due to being ignored, feeling disrespected, dismissed, demeaned, or bullied. A narcissist who perceives you as a threat in some way may attempt to throw you under the bus professionally, and you may need to handle some complicated situations. You can find additional useful strategies for working with a narcissist here.

If you are dealing with a sociopath, you may find things are more complicated and threatening than if you are dealing with a narcissist. If you are in a sociopath’s sight as either a highly useful or highly problematic person then you are likely to be the target of behavior that can range from manipulative to highly destructive. You will need to take care of yourself in a well thought out strategic fashion, with an eye on self-protection (of reputation, information, finances, and physical self). Whichever personality you encounter, remember that awareness of the personality type and implementing tactful, thoughtful strategies can make your situation better.

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10 Types Of Employees You Should Fire Immediately

ISAIAH HANKEL, ENTREPRENEUR

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If you want to build a great business, you have to be very deliberate about whom you let into it.

Emotions and behaviors may circulate through social networks in patterns similar to what’s seen in epidemiological models of the flu virus.

Every positive person you let into your life increases your chances of being positive 11 percent, estimated a study published in 2010 in the Proceedings of the Royal Society.

“Just one sad friend was needed to double an individual’s chance of becoming unhappy,” Wired summarized about the report.

Figuring out whom to avoid and whom to let in won’t always be easy. But with a little practice, you can get really good at staying far away from people who might bring your business down.

Here are 10 people (whether employees or clients) you should avoid if you’re starting a business:

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1. The siren.
Sirens are those amazing and enticing people who come into your business and completely distract you. More than anyone else, these people have a way of stealing your focus and throwing your efforts off track.

A lot of promising futures have been sacrificed to sirens. Some people have sold their businesses for way less than they are worth and others have given up on their businesses to chase a get-rich-quick scheme than some sirens pitched them. Don’t let this happen to you. Don’t let an amazing person make you forget that you and your business have something amazing to offer the world, too.

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2. The goat.
Goats are those wildly charismatic, big-talking and full-of-luck people who seem to get away with everything. These people have many strengths.

The problem is that they use their strengths in devious ways. Goats have little ambition beyond convincing others to make bad decisions. If you find yourself constantly making bad business decisions every time you’re around someone in particular, it’s time to cut that person out of your business.

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3. The elephant.
An elephant never forgets. Elephants are those people in your business who never let you live down past mistakes. They never let you live down who you used to be or how many times you’ve messed up.

Don’t let an elephant pull you back into the past. Everyone fails, especially entrepreneurs. If you’ve failed, it means you’ve learned. So stay on track and keep moving forward.

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4. The hater.
Haters are people who want to be on top but don’t want to work to get there. Instead, they want to push everyone else around them down so it will seem like they’re on top.

Haters are losers but they also can serve as a source of motivation in a strange way. Don’t let haters into your business but use them as motivation to make your business as strong as possible.

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5. The narcissist.
Narcissists are talented people who are too consumed with themselves to take action. They’re especially bad at taking team-oriented action.

A narcissist might even encourage you to put the image of your business over its reputation. This is always bad idea. When starting a business, it’s best to be transparent and authentic. Don’t try to make things seem bigger than they are and avoid trying to be something you’re not. Instead, be real. Keep narcissists out of your startup and stay focused on your reputation, not your image.

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6. The nemesis.
When you’re starting a business, sometimes you’ll have to work with someone whom you can’t stand and who can’t stand you. If you’re not careful, this can become a major distraction.

Try to realize that what you don’t like about a nemesis is probably something you don’t like about yourself or it’s something that you like too much about yourself. Either way, something is at odds with your identity and the only way to fix it is to turn the mirror on yourself, not the nemesis.

Your adversary can be your advisor in a way. If you bring a nemesis into your startup, use this person to learn about yourself. Once you do this, he or she won’t be your nemesis anymore.

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7. The Ares.
Ares is the Greek god of war. Ares-type people love conflict. They are addicted to drama and winning at all costs, even if there’s nothing to be won. Any time spent trying to correct or even understand an Ares is a waste of time. You are better off ignoring these people and keeping them out of your business altogether.

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8. The Dionysus.
Dionysus is the Greek god of wine, parties and pleasure. Dionysus sorts are pleasure seekers who have very little patience for anything other than instant gratification.

Be careful when letting these people into your business because base pleasure of any kind is both addictive and time-consuming. It’s important to have friends and have fun, but you should never sacrifice your startup to a string of late nights.

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9. The black cat.
Some people can walk into a business and light it up. Others walk in and kill it. Black cats are the latter. They are the people who seem to have a dark cloud following them everywhere they go.

These people are unlucky, negative and always depressed. Don’t feel bad for these people. Odds are, they like sitting in the pits. They like the attention it gives them. So, let them sit. Just make sure they’re sitting outside your business.

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10. The fat cat.
Fat cats are those people who will come into your business, throw a bunch of money around and offer you the world. Whether these people are angel investors or venture capitalists from top firms, don’t let their flash or their cash distract you from the fact that they want to control your company and make money off you.

Be very careful with whom give your business to. You didn’t work this hard to watch your brand and reputation go down in flames at the paws of some fat cat who is now calling the shots.

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10 Ways to Be a Leader—Even When You Aren’t in Charge

By Patti Johnson

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Do you think of a leader as someone else with a more important title or more experience? Think again. True leaders have more than impressive job descriptions and company anniversaries. They have influence and contribute to something bigger, not just to the work but also to the team.

Candace joined my team a few years ago with big enthusiasm and a fresh perspective. She had recommendations on new technology and ideas to improve communication with each other and our clients. Her suggestions were always aimed at making us all better, not just making herself look good. Candace was only a few years out of college and yet she was most definitely a leader—not because of her title or experience, but because of how she showed up.

You can show up like a leader, too. And when you do, the rest of your career will take care of itself. Here are 10 behaviors that can help make you a leader:

1. Speak up.
Leaders, regardless of title, know their role—to share and be part of the conversation. They aren’t content to be bystanders. Decide upfront in any meeting or discussion that you have a role to play and participate. Think about how you can contribute, not if you’ll look good.

2. Have ideas to make things better.
Leaders contribute to the greater good. Bring ideas to help make your work, team and organization better. And good ideas come from being informed and learning about much more than just your daily work.

3. Stop talking about other people.
Nothing makes you look smaller faster than filling your conversations with everyone else’s weaknesses. I used to work with someone with a nonstop commentary on how everyone else was annoying, frustrating, uninformed or clueless, and so on. Most people who spend their energy in this way are trying to deflect from their own lack of confidence. It’s hard to have influence if criticism is your currency.

4. Show your brand of enthusiasm.
This doesn’t mean you have to become a cheerleader or be someone you aren’t. Enthusiasm means confidence in your ideas, a positive outlook and valuing others. No one will show more enthusiasm for your ideas than you do.

5. Power up others’ ideas.
When someone else gives a good idea, offer validation and expand on it. As an example, if your co-worker has a great recommendation for a new way of connecting with customers, then recommend how to get started with an experiment.

6. Constantly improve how you work.
Always look for ways you can do your work better. Share ideas for even small improvements. Keep looking for how to increase your contribution—even if no one is asking you to do it.

7. Quit being a professional critic.
Early in my career, I had a respected boss tell me that “being a critic isn’t hard and that no one earns respect from doing the easy lifting.” It’s not difficult to point out what’s wrong. Leaders have recommendations and answers.

8. Solve problems rather than self-promote.
Keep your eye on the problem you want to solve or an opportunity to make your work or team better. Recommendations intended to make yourself look good or get promoted are pretty easy to spot.

9. Give credit to others.
Appreciate others’ contributions. Openly thank people for a great recommendation that worked. Congratulate others for the success of their new project. This shows not only self-confidence, but it proves that you are more interested in the success of the team than just your own.

10. Promote yourself.
Think as if you had the job that you want in the future. Know the issues you’d have to consider if you were in charge. This outlook helps you broaden your perspective and continue to grow.

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Discrimination Sexual harassment is a form of sex discrimination that violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Title VII applies to employers with 15 or more employees, including state and local governments. It also applies to employment agencies and to labor organizations, as well as to the federal government. 

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Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature constitute sexual harassment when this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual’s employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual’s work performance, or creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work environment. 

Sexual harassment can occur in a variety of circumstances, including but not limited to the following: 

* The victim as well as the harasser may be a woman or a man. The victim does not have to be of the opposite sex.

*The harasser can be the victim’s supervisor, an agent of the employer, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or a non-employee.

*The victim does not have to be the person harassed but could be anyone affected by the offensive conduct.

* Unlawful sexual harassment may occur without economic injury to or discharge of the victim.

* The harasser’s conduct must be unwelcome. It is helpful for the victim to inform the harasser directly that the conduct is unwelcome and must stop. The victim should use any employer complaint mechanism or grievance system available.

When investigating allegations of sexual harassment, EEOC looks at the whole record: the circumstances, such as the nature of the sexual advances, and the context in which the alleged incidents occurred. A determination on the allegations is made from the facts on a case-by-case basis. 

Prevention is the best tool to eliminate sexual harassment in the workplace. Employers are encouraged to take steps necessary to prevent sexual harassment from occurring. They should clearly communicate to employees that sexual harassment will not be tolerated. They can do so by providing sexual harassment training to their employees and by establishing an effective complaint or grievance process and taking immediate and appropriate action when an employee complains.

Retaliation for Sexual Harassment

It is also unlawful to retaliate against an individual for opposing employment practices that discriminate based on sex or for filing a discrimination charge, testifying, or participating in any way in an investigation, proceeding, or litigation under Title VII. 

Source: US Equal Employment Opportunity Commission 

Contact information: http://www.eeoc.gov/field/index.cfm

5 Things You Should Know That HR Will Never Tell You

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Love ’em or hate ’em, the folks in the HR department can have a significant impact on your career. From compensation to promotion decisions, many people underestimate the role of HR and what a difference it can make if they’re on your side.

The next time you see the HR rep coming your way, don’t duck into the copy room or act distracted at the water cooler. Smile, say hello and keep these tips from an HR insider in mind:

1. Remember that HR works for your company, not for you.

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Sure, HR wants to support employees, but at the end of the day, they’re working to serve the best interests of the company.

So next time you’re wondering why the benefits package was cut, why so many loyal employees were let go in the restructuring or why they’re supporting a manager who was in the wrong, remember HR is paid by the company, not you.

2. Keep in mind that all employees are NOT treated equally.

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While HR managers will talk about everyone being talented and valued, they don’t believe they’re equally talented or valued. At virtually every large organization, individuals are classified into different groups or categories — for example, “high potential.”

You quite likely won’t know they exist, or more importantly, which group your manager has put you in. But these classifications can affect everything from your development opportunities to the likelihood of a promotion or pay raise.

When it comes to compensation, salaries can vary hugely even when two people are doing the exact same job. If you suspect you’re underpaid, it’s never too late to brush up on your negotiation skills.

There are countless HR policies companies will point to in terms of process, fairness and equality. But for every policy, exceptions can be granted. Who do those exceptions apply to? That brings me to…

3. Make a good impression, because HR’s opinion of you absolutely matters.

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While your manager is key to your advancement, HR can also have a big impact on your career — both positively and negatively. If they see you as the girl who’s enthusiastic, committed and articulate, people will hear about it. If they see you as the guy who’s always complaining, late and too cool for school, people will also hear about it.

So when HR is sitting around a table with the management team discussing who gets promotions, who to send to the executive development program in London or who to put on a new, high-profile committee, you obviously want to be on their good side.

HR is also the first to know about new roles opening up. Not only do you want to be recommended; you also want to make sure you’re considered in the first place. Despite what you might think (or what HR will tell you), many jobs are never advertised.

This is important because quite often, junior employees don’t have a relationship with anyone in HR. And if you don’t get to know them, they probably won’t know who you are (and therefore can’t help you). Sometimes, all it takes is a short meeting over coffee to discuss your learning and development plan or to get their input on the implications of a big project you’re supporting.

On the other hand, if you do have a relationship with the department but feel like your personal brand is lacking, do a little humblebragging and gradually build up your reputation.

4. Be careful what you discuss with HR.

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Though you want to build a relationship with HR, you also need to be conscious of what you share. Don’t assume your one-on-one conversation is a confidential discussion.

You can always ask for something to be kept private, but if it’s really something you don’t want known more broadly, it’s probably better not to test your luck. People who work in HR are so accustomed to dealing with sensitive information that discussing something you see as very private can happen easily.

5. Share the love with HR, too.

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HR is often on the receiving end of a lot of complaints. From “I wasn’t paid on time” to “Why does it take so long to hire someone?” to the ever-popular “Do we really have to waste our time with another HR meeting?” HR reps hear their share of whining.

Like any department that often receives critical feedback, showing your appreciation for HR’s work can go a long way. Of course your feedback should be genuine, but if you show the love, it’ll often work in your favor. As the saying goes, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

Now that you have the inside track, go ahead and reach out beyond those scary HR doors. Just be careful!

10 THINGS EMPLOYEES DISLIKE MOST ABOUT THEIR EMPLOYERS
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12 of the Worst Employees Types

“I think one of the things employees dislike the most is the lack of context that their employers provide, that I mean many employees do not get enough information from their employers to have answers to basic questions like, ‘What’s really expected of me?’, ‘How will my performance be judged?’ and ‘How does what I do, day-in-and-day-out, help the overall company achieve its goals?’ It is important for all employees, regardless of what they do, to have these essential questions answered because it gives a sense of meaning to their work.”

Having that sense of meaning is vital to any employee, and it all starts with addressing the issues workers have on the job. Here’s a look at 10 of the most recognized complaints employees have about their employers.

1. LACK OF COMMUNICATION

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The biggest problem with any relationship is lack of communication. And that extends beyond the personal life and into the work life

The issue starts when employees avoid speaking forthright to their employers for fear of retribution. A valid feeling in many cases. But there are plenty of things employers can do to open the lines of communication, like making time for employees, giving feedback, listening closely, asking questions and above all else, not hiding in the office and directing traffic solely through emails.

“Poor communication is a big problem in the workplace,” said Tonya Slawinski, a Ph.D and president of Supportive Solutions, Inc., a crisis response service for businesses. “Communication is an ongoing process rather than a static event. Employees have a high tolerance for change if kept in the loop. When communication breaks down, rumors run rampant and will directly impact productivity, focus and ultimately the finances of the company.”

2. UNFAIR PAY

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It’s hard to find an employee who thinks they make too much money. So the best employers can do is live up to fair-wage standards.

Retail giant Wal-Mart has taken heat from all angles for paying unfair wages and benefits to its employees while reaping enormous profits. It’s a formula that raises the ire of politicians, advocates and the public, but is cheered on Wall Street.

The bottom line is that complaining about salary, in most cases, won’t increase a worker’s wage. What employees can do to boost their paychecks is emphasize their experience, improve their education, point out positive performance reviews, work less desirable, but higher paying shifts, and exemplify successes.

3. NO JOB SECURITY

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With outsourcing, downsizing, globalization and pressure to meet the bottom line, job security has become a scarce commodity. A substantial amount of employees have been made to feel as valuable to the company as a paper clip. Therefore, the backlash has been that workers are changing jobs at a clip of every three years

“Changing jobs has become a way of life in today’s workforce,” U.S. Secretary of Labor Elaine Chao said during a March speech in Washington. “The average American will have had ten jobs between the ages of 18 and 38. Every year, about one-third of our workforce changes jobs, largely to take advantage of better opportunities.”

4. UNDER APPRECIATION

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When an employee feels unappreciated at work, the stress it creates can have a fatal blow to the company’s productivity and bottom line. There are several ways to display appreciation, but the simplest ones are sometimes all that’s necessary. “Nothing says, ‘We don’t appreciate you’ more than when your employee has worked like crazy to finish the project, and you reward them by adding more to their plate,” said Joe Folan, Marketing Manager of Talentzoo.com, an Atlanta-based job recruiter. “You would be surprised how a half-day on Friday to begin the weekend can be greatly appreciated.”

5. FAVORITISM

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Anytime someone receives special treatment at work, it’s bound to ruffle the feathers of fellow employees. Whether it’s more money, an undeserved promotion or a better schedule, favoritism by an employer can be a destructive force to morale. When “who you know” becomes a blatant reason for advancement or preferential treatment, employees often find it tough to swallow this bitter pill.

6. OVERWORKED

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If you’ve never felt overworked at one time in your career, you probably don’t have a pulse. Aside from not getting paid enough, this is probably the most common employee complaint have – whether it’s true or not. And it certainly can have more impact than getting a hundred bucks less in your paycheck every week. The toll on overworked employees can include fatigue, irritability, weight gain, insomnia, and a whole host of other physical and mental ailments.

7. MICROMANAGEMENT

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Everyone’s had the micromanaging boss breathing down their neck. The boss that’s involved is great. The one who’s over-involved can be a nightmare. The micromanager shows little trust in employees and robs them of the ability to do their job. Micromanagers usually have an obsessive-compulsive behavior and fear if they don’t stay on top of an employee, then their job is on the line. The only real way to stop an employer from micromanaging is to tell them that you can produce better results if given the freedom to do so. Of course, that conversation has to be polite and tactful.

8. INCOMPETENT MANAGERS

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There’s at least one in every company. The man or woman who people shake their head at and ask, “How in the world did they get that job?” Thousands of unqualified bosses slip up the ranks and into positions they have no right to hold. It’s just part of the work life, and it aggravates the heck out of employees. There’s not a lot of workers can do if they’re under the thumb of a bumbling boss, so turn the situation around. If the boss is no good, it gives the employee a better chance to stand out and score major bonus points with senior management.

9. NO OPPORTUNITY FOR ADVANCEMENT

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Finding yourself with a ceiling over your career is not a good place for an employee to be in. The first step is taking an honest look at the situation and listing the reasons you’re not getting promoted. If an employee feels they’re qualified and constantly getting passed up for a promotion, take the initiative, get yourself noticed and learn what’s needed to be considered for the job. It may be the simple fact that there are no positions to move up into. And if that drags on for years, it may be time to move on to another company or line of work.

10. OVERBEARING BOSS

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The nasty, overbearing boss is probably the biggest cliché of any workplace. The evil supervisor is constantly being represented on the small and big screen, including the recent film, ‘The Devil Wears Prada,’ where Meryl Streep portrayed the ruthless and cynical magazine editor, Miranda Priestly. But for a lot of unfortunate employees, the miserly boss isn’t Hollywood fiction. It’s a reality that workers have to face and deal with. Employees should take on bad boss behavior by one, making sure they’re doing things right; two, documenting bad behavior; three, finding a mentor within the company to confide in, and four, if all else fails, report the ogre to a supervisor or the human resources department.

Dr. Jan Stringer is a member of the American Psychological Association, and she has authored numerous articles and publications about surveys, training, and employee and customer satisfaction.

12 of the Worst Employees Types

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In any organization, one should never expect or force everyone to like everyone. The strength and success of any organization is the cohesiveness and teamwork of its employees. However, there are certain employee types that we feel pose a disruptive effect to any cohesion within a company. Now, executives and managers can and will overlook all sorts of weird and quirky behavior as long as the job gets done. But certain types of employees can’t seem to stop themselves from creating more problems than they solve. For them, the dollar amount on their foreheads just isn’t worth it.

We don’t generally like stereotypes but we are going to make an exception for these 12 behavioral types that we would NEVER hire or would not be working for us long.

How many of these employee types do you work with!

1. I’m important. Takes themselves too seriously. Anytime you need something, they have to check his schedule or who-knows-what and get back to you.Or they have all sorts of questions and concerns, every little bit of minutiae they can think of just to sound important. It’s so annoying that, after a while, you just go somewhere else.

2.The persistent negator. Some people are all about why things can’t be done or shouldn’t be done a certain way. They’ve always got reasons why something is wrong but never any good suggestions on how to do it differently or better. They’re always trying to stir up trouble or a debate over nothing. Those people just suck the energy out of organizations.

3. Mr. Know-it-all. People who think they know it all are annoying to those of us who do. Old joke. But seriously, the most accomplished executives are always aware of how little they know; that asking questions is far more important than knowing answers. That just comes from experience. So when the “smartest person in the room” acts like they has all the answers and we know they don’t, they loses credibility. Not a good thing.

4.The brick wall. I don’t know why, but some people are so stubborn, so inflexible, if they don’t do things exactly a certain way — their way — you’d think the whole world is going to fall apart. It gets to the point where they’re actually intimidating to work with, so you just give up. Maybe that’s the point.

5. High maintenance, high anxiety. It’s one thing when you’re new to a job and need some handholding to get going. However, some employees stay that way. They have zero self-confidence, are full of angst, and need to be told exactly what to do and how to do it and confirm every little thing with you for fear they might actually get it wrong and be held accountable. It’s sad, but it’s also a real problem.

6. The filibusterer. It’s easy to spot these people in meetings. They’re the ones who always have to know why we have to do it this way or that way and why not the other way. They’re really just wasting everyone’s time to hear the sound of their own voice — or so they don’t have to actually do any work.

7. In everybody’s business. Everywhere I’ve ever worked there’s been an employee who’s got to be involved in everything. Outwardly, they appear helpful and eager to assist. They want to help everybody do everything. Everything except actual work, that is. After a while you realize it’s all just distraction, to feel important, or stay entertained while getting absolutely nothing done.

8. Surprise! You give them a task with plenty of time to complete it. When the task comes due, you find there is much of the work is missing or incomplete. When you confront the employee, all they have is excuses. A real mess!

9. “Trust me.” When an employee that you don’t know well enough to actually trust says “trust me” it your antennas should go up. If I trust you, you don’t have to say it. If I don’t yet, you have to earn it. Saying it just makes one think of all the reasons why they don’t or shouldn’t.

10. “The Snitch” Is there an individual that you work with who is constantly running to management complaining or snitching about fellow employees?  Beware management!  These are the employees that usually have something to hide and use the fine art of “focal misdirection” to take any attention off of themselves.

11.“The Busy-Bee Illusion” This is the employee that always appears to be in “high gear”. They always want to be noticed as running around like the proverbial chicken with their head cut off. However, they always beg the question; “What exactly has this person accomplished?

12.“It’s the principle.” Whenever someone says, “It’s the principle” at work, get nervous. When they say things, like “I don’t understand why John gets all the accolades and promotions instead of me. It wouldn’t bother me, but it’s the principle…” That’s just code for someone who feels entitled to something they apparently didn’t earn.

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